12 days of Christmas Blessing My Husband

December is a fun time around our house with school, church, birthdays and holiday parties but it can also feel crazy busy with all our family activities. This year I really wanted to bless my husband with his own special gift of 12 days of Christmas. It was so fun to plan. The tricky part was when he surprised me with a trip to New York in the middle of it. Luckily the days we traveled were things I could easily take on the airplane and continue his surprise each day in New York City. He loved singing his own version of the song everyday...and it was so cute because he didn't know what was coming next so he just kept singing the days he already knew.
Day 1: on the first day of Christmas my true love gave to me...an awesome golf adventure~ I printed out a gift certificate for Pebble Beach Resort wrapped it up and put it by his toothbrush in our bathroom. 
Day 2: two movie tickets~ I bought a gift card for movie tickets at our local theatre.
Day3: three handwarmers~ for the snow
Day4: four wooly socks~ gotta love Target
Day5: FIVE CHRISTMAS COOKIES~ he shared these with one of our daughters and she put a request into Santa for more.
Day6: six sexy emails~ I sent these throughout the day not realizing his emails may or may not be read by corporate IT dept. insert blushing face here!
Day 7: seven mistletoe kisses~ this was fun as he collected his mistletoe kisses throughout New York City... carriage ride in Central Park, Empire State Building, Rockefeller Christmas Tree, drinks at The Plaza, Times Square, Russian Tea Room, rooftop lounge looking out at the city lights.
Day8: eight romantic candles~ packed these in my carry on and set them out in our hotel room.
Day9: nine holiday candies~ perfect for airplane treats
Day10: ten post-it love notes~ I arranged these in the shape of a Christmas tree on our bathroom mirror. 10 things I love and cherish about him.
Day11: eleven songs playlist~ this was fun, I hand picked 11 songs just for him
Day12: twelve lacy goodies~ the finale on Christmas Eve...lacy lingerie 

Marriage might be a noun but what keeps it special is love and that my friends is a verb...effort, planning, listening, communicating, participating, giving, sharing, compromising, forgiving, protecting, learning, growing...loving.

Christmas morning I woke up to a beautiful letter my husband wrote to me. I will share this part with you, "on the twelfth day of Christmas my true love gave to me...twelve lacy goodies,eleven songs playlist,ten post-it love notes, nine holiday candies, eight romantic candles, seven mistletoe kisses, six sexy emails, FIVE CHRISTMAS COOKIES, four wooly socks, three handwarmers, two movie tickets and an awesome golf adventure. BUT, what my true love really gave to me this Christmas was...mystery, excitement, something new in our relationship, romance, intrigue, sweets, love, understanding, time alone with my true love, anticipation, mind blowing effort to keep me guessing and eternal love that we can share forever because of our love for The Lord and a reminder of what Christmas really is about."
Leave it to my husband to turn my attempt at blessing him into him touching my heart deeply with this letter. After 16 Christmas' together this will be one of my favorites to remember.




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ThanksGIVEing

Each November I usually make a list of what I'm thankful for everyday. This year I've decided to focus on the "give" inside of "Thanksgiving" and do something each day for someone else to "give" my thanks away through actions and words. The beautiful thing is this little project is making me feel even more thankful. Here's my acronym:

G = Gratitude changes perspective~

I = Impact the life of someone else~

V = Validate others~

E = Encourage kindness~

Day1: gave up my livescan fingerprints appointment at the police station to a man who didn't have one so he could go on his child's fieldtrip.

Day2: sent a message to a dear friend just to say "I love you."

Day3: sponsored an 8 year old boy in OtinoWaa Children's Village in Africa. We can write to him, send him packages and email him. I know the directors of this orphanage from our church. Our daughter has already declared she will go there and meet him. She's working on a list of questions for him and details about our family to share with him. 

Day4: got out of my car to take back a costco cart for a mommy holding a baby and a toddler trying to get into the car alone. Having twins I remember those days very well.

Day5: thanked and prayed for the tow truck driver that came to help me when my transmission went out. Pretty sure that guy was an angel. He said something to me that I needed to hear. Didn't even make sense that he would say it. 

Day6: let 2 cars cut in line in front of me during heavy traffic even though they cheated the traffic lane (they should have exited).

Day 7: ran after a bus waiving my arms and shouting "wait, wait" on behalf of a little gramma trying so hard to get to the bus stop before it left. 

Day8: thanked the staff at Stanford for always treating my daughter with kindness, gentleness and encouragement.

Day9: paid for the car behind me on the bridge.

Day10: took the time to teach my daughter the importance of paying tithing on money she earns. She had her first babysitting job this weekend. So proud of her!

Day11: donated 8 holiday meals to be delivered to elderly people so they can enjoy Thanksgiving Day in their home.

Day12: made cupcakes for the teachers lounge at our school. It's always hard to go back to work after a 3 day weekend. So thankful for the love they pour into our kids.

Day13: focused on "this moment" with my daughter without worry or distraction. 

Day14: donated $ to WorldVision Disaster Relief for Typhoon Haiyan in the Philippines.

Day15: gave food donation to SF CityTeams Ministries.

Day16: shopped for Operation Christmas Child and filled 2 shoeboxes to the brim. Wish I could deliver them in person.

Day17: bagged up food for Santa Cruz Hope "Feed The Community Thanksgiving Outreach." 

Day18: gave cold beverages to carpet cleaners who had a really long day. Prayed for 2 families I don't know that needed prayers. Sent an encouraging email to a friend.

Day19: complimented sales associates on giving such great customer service. Welcomed and encouraged a new worker at the hospital.

Day20: did a drive by flower drop off at a friend's front porch. 

Day21: gave grace to the not so patient freeway drivers on our 10 hour road trip to Portland. I drove while hubby worked. Gotta love a mobile wifi hot spot for long road trips and work deadlines.

Day22: thanked the students who shared their day at school with S and L and made their experience fun and welcoming.

Day23: sent a thank you note to our dry cleaners.

Day24: prayed for a friend who doesn't know Jesus.

Day25: took Nonna's car and filled up the gas tank.

Day26: took the time to fill out a survey from a local Safeway to give praise and recognition for the cashier/employee who checked us out. People in Oregon are so friendly.

Day27: participated in "Push The Bag Forward" to support Lane county food donations.

Day28: cooked Thanksgiving dinner and made a thankful tree for everyone to write what they are most thankful for.

Day29: helped an 80 year old man who stumbled down the stairs at the Football game. Wish he didn't have to deal with those stairs. Loved his spirit. 

Day30: wrote an encouraging letter, made a call to lend a listening ear and gave almost all the drivers on our road trip home, grace and space, expect for one which I felt bad about later. Pretty sure a few bad words came out of my mouth. Holiday traffic was a pickle. 

My November of ThanksGIVEing has come to an end. I liked giving my thanks away through helping others. 

Gratitude changes perspective

Impact the life of someone else

Validate others

Encourage kindness

I will do this again next year~ 

I'm so thankful for the people in my life that love me, inspire me and continually impact my life through their words and actions. I will gladly praise the one who made me and choose to be His hands and feet. Bless someone today~

 

Divine Appointments

If you look you will find appointments in your day that God planned for you in advance. Today while waiting in my daughter's hospital room (she is with the nurse in another room) I decided to act upon the urging of the Holy Spirit and started a friendly conversation with the hospital housecleaner who came into our room. Long story short I ended up asking her if I could pray for her and I wrapped my arms around her and prayed. The tears poured down her face and she kept thanking me. Her husband committed suicide 17 months ago and she is truly heartbroken and trying to take care of her 10 year old son. I'm glad I didn't ignore that prompting to engage her in a conversation. God did the rest.  Take the time and look around, step outside your comfort zone and connect with people in your path. Let God use you today! 

30 Year High School Reunion

Finally home from a fast paced week in Oregon. It was so great to see old friends at my reunion and catch up with many names I remembered but didn't know well. The benefit of outgrowing awkward social skills of high school is taking the opportunity to get to know those you didn't know well before. There is beauty in the discovery. I really enjoyed the evening and our girls night out slumber party in the hotel.  The highlight however of this trip was spending time with family members I don't get to see often and the time we spent with our adopted grandparents. These precious moments hold so much meaning in my heart.  Life is too short.  Learning to be present and truly engaged in each relationship and conversation is a gift that is received on both sides. Time should be listed on the endangered species list.  It's a valuable commodity that can either drain you or fill you up. Use your time wisely. You could be the blessing someone is waiting for.

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8

Teachable Moments

Teach your children the difference between right and wrong or someone else will teach them wrong is right.  It seems when our kids were young teachable moments were a constant daily necessity to achieve routine and harmony raising twins. Consequences were immediate and our umbrella as parents gave me a great sense of control for training up well behaved, respectful children who would one day be launched out into the world to conquer their dreams. Fast forward to today...our twins have been teenagers for 13 days and it seems we've jumped into that old familiar feeling of needing our umbrella again. Why you ask??? One word...Instagram! Many of their friends were allowed an Instagram account at a young age. We however chose the magical age of 13 to allow that privilege. After locking down their accounts on privacy settings and explaining this is the beginning of their social media footprint and comments they make and photos they post all send a message about who they are and what they stand for, they were off and running. Within 8 hours they had 60 friends and lots of likes on photos.  After searching through their activity and friends lists it became clear this was going to get out of control really fast! The years of building their self esteem through character and integrity seemed to be going right down the drain because of how many likes someone gets on a photo. This launched our dissertation about how if you allow your self worth to depend on how many likes you get that road to your future will take you down a very different path. 

We surfed through their friends pages and couldn't believe what we were seeing. Many are not on private settings and some have 500 plus followers and 2 had over 3000! Why on earth does a young teenager need that kind of false security of friendship.  After this discovery we all decided what our family boundaries will be with Instagram, friending, posting and comments. Our girls came to the decision that they will not be that girl that chases their acceptance through numbers.  Social media and technology are growing at such a fast pace and will continue to provide many opportunities for us as parents to help navigate our kids through the pros and cons. 

The Big Surprise!!

The Big Surprise!

After several months of planning this birthday surprise it finally came time for the big reveal.  After the twins were baptized in the ocean we hung around the beach playing in the waves then checked into the Kealani Hotel for a night of sleepover fun! I planned a scavenger hunt of sorts that any teen would love to do because it involved their phones! Lol

It couldn't have been any easier.

Simply took a paper plate and cut in between the letters A-Z that I placed around the rim in black sharpie. I then wrote the instructions in the middle of the plate. 

Basically they divided into two teams and had one hour to find something on hotel property that began with each letter. They had to take a photo of it to prove their findings. Since we were celebrating the twins 13th birthday Bonus points were given if they found 13 of one item.

They had a blast!

The next afternoon the girls came home to their surprise party at the house. They had no idea! The letters were a huge hit!! Although we had these letters and photos of their life made into a book for each daughter,   I also took each letter and collaged them on the wall for the party.

It was truly a spectacular 13th birthday celebration! 

The Letters

Here is the letter we sent out to our loved ones to participate in this special birthday surprise for our twin daughters 13th birthday.

Dear Family and Friends,

Our twins are turning 13 this summer and entering their teenage years. Soon they will be in high school facing significant changes in their lives. 

We are reaching out to all of you as significant role models/adults in their lives to provide words of wisdom that we will use to create a lasting keepsake for their 13th birthday.

This birthday traditionally is represented as a spiritual time when a young girl transitions into a young woman and your words of wisdom and guidance will be a wonderful blessing into their journey through their teenage years.

We will be in Hawaii for their birthday and this will feel like you are all there with us! 

We've selected a topic for each of you.  Please write what's on your heart about that topic in a letter addressed to the girls.

Letter Topics:

1.  Family

2. Promise maker promise keeper

3. Faith 

4.  Goals & Dreams

5.  Choices 

6.  Friendships and peer pressure

7.  Discernment and Decisions 

8.  Overcoming obstacles

9.  First impressions

10. Trusting God

11.  Learning from your mistakes

12. Standing up for the right thing

13. Truth and honesty

Thank you so much! We look forward to your words of blessing, wisdom and guidance. 

All our love,

Soon to be parents of teenagers

(Again)!